How to include your children in your wedding ceremony

Family Bolongo Bay Beach Resort is a family friendly property, attracting all kinds of wedding groups! Many of our brides and grooms are traveling with their children, whether from a previous relationship or current. It’s very common to want to include your children in your big day! It’s important to ask them how they’d feel about being included in the wedding, but since your marriage may be about combining or reaffirming your families, make them feel like they’re a part of your day too. Here, a few ideas to include your kids in your wedding day (try one or combine a few!).

1. Make them bridesmaids and groomsmen.

There’s no rule that says your bridal party has to be all adults. This idea works especially well if your children are older than 10 (the typical age cutoff for flower children). If they’re younger, then they could serve as junior bridesmaids and groomsmen, but the same idea applies that they participate in activities like the bridal shower, and they dress like your bridesmaid and groomsmen.

2. Include your kids in the unity ceremony.

If you’re having a unity candle, sand ceremony or nontraditional unity ceremony alternative, this is the perfect chance to involve your kids. By getting married, you really are making one big family, or reaffirming the family that already exists, so it makes total sense. Have them help light the candle, include multiple sand colors or come up with something totally new and creative, like family handprints you can display in your home after the wedding. Many weddings at Bolongo will involve a unity sand ceremony, and involving your children is a great way to make the moment special! Have you kids pick out there favorite sand colors, or take turns pouring in one of your chosen shades.

3. Write your kids into your vows.

Recognizing your kids in the vows is an easy way to make them feel included and special. It’s also important to remind them that you’re committing to being a family and not just a wife or husband. You could even engrave a gift with quotes from your vows for them or hang a pretty calligraphed version in your home afterward.

4. Ask your kids to walk you down the aisle.

The person or people that walk you down the aisle don’t have to be your dad or parents. You could switch things up by having your kids walk you instead, and this idea works especially well if your children are older.

5. Have them as your flower girl and/or ring bearer.

When it comes to including your kids, you shouldn’t force yourself to find a something totally new and different if you want to keep your wedding traditional. This one is classic, easy, simple and a crowd-pleaser.

Tuesday03 Jun 2014